i get this from time to time. ultimately i know the cause in my case. it is about the mind and allowing myself to feel pleasure. i just watched a porno that was awkward as hell and amateur in the no-skills-in-bed manner. i was so determined to come that even though i had been inconsistently turned on & mostly bored the entire time, i made myself finish. For I have no pleasure in the death of anyone, declares the Lord GOD; so turn, and live.” Berean Study Bible For I take no pleasure in anyone’s death, declares the Lord GOD. So repent and live! New American Standard Bible For I have no pleasure in the death of anyone who dies, declares the Lord GOD. Therefore, repent and live.